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Spring Cleaning for Your Relationship?

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Since the weather or “season” has changed to Spring, I’ve noticed a trend in the changes clients are making to their lives.
Many Wizpert users I connected with this week have made the decision to spring clean their relationships now.
Recently I was assisting a user who was sensing a need to spring clean his life, and informed me of tasks already completed so far. He was stuck for things to try. We brainstormed ideas and came up with some realistic solutions.
Another user I assisted asked about how to make his Wife happier. One user wanted to end her negative relationship as she was suffering with low self-esteem. I encouraged her to consider some gentle ideas around confidence building.
One man wanted to work on his impatience so he would enjoy dating more, instead of wanting to rush his relationships. These are my favourite types of Wizpert users.
Each call is so different, and I love to help.
Wizpert is truly proving to be a great way of connecting with people in crisis; drilling down into their issue, generating workable solutions, and making the client feel important. Some users connect with me three times in one afternoon to update me, and I’m happy to be of service.
Ruby Binns-Cagney

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I’m gonna make you love me

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When I was a little girl, my parents used to listen to Diana Ross songs and I would sing along pretending to be, “The Boss”. One song in particular had the chorus, “I’m gonna make you love me, oh, yes I will, yes I will…”. As a child, I never considered what that meant until I entered adolescence and became an adult. I eventually learned the lesson that you cannot “make” anyone to love you. My encounters with Wizpert clients reinforce this concept.

I continuously attempt to teach others this lesson as we discuss the topic of relationships. They want to “make them understand” or “make them see” certain things regarding who they are and what they want from a relationship and how they are going to obtain it from that other individual. These individuals are not taking into consideration or respecting the concept of “free will”. How can anyone expect for someone to remain in a relationship when the desire to impose his or her will upon the other individual?

One of the many benefits of being a Wizpert is the opportunity to help other individuals to gain insight into their wants, needs, and desires as they come to terms with the status of their relationships. Helping them to understand that both parties in a relationship has free will to pursue peace and happiness is important. They cannot force someone to stay when their mind and heart is already out the door. I advocate personal development and I believe that no matter the status of a relationship, an individual can be a champion in the situation as they take what has occurred and use it as a means of growth. If that growth results in saving the relationship, than that is an advantage. If that growth does not result in saving the relationship, it provides the individual with a certain level of peace and the opportunity to apply those lessons learned in another healthy relationship.

In the end, everyone who is in a relationship should learn that no one is, “The Boss.”

Donetta D. Quinones, MS, CHBC

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The dynamics of major life events

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I became a Wizpert just over a month ago. I honestly was not sure what to expect when I agreed to deliver advice to members over Skype. I was a bit nervous about whether I would be well received or not. I think anyone would be in that situation. It seems almost arrogant to call myself a relationship and personal growth “expert” although I have to admit I have had a lot of experience in both areas. I lost my mom last year to cancer and I have been through divorce, single parenthood and remarriage. I understand the dynamics involved in major life events.

I am so glad I took a chance on this new adventure. I have handled many calls and all of them are unique. I am so humbled when someone asks if they can favorite me. I have had a few people come back and tell me that I was very helpful and the let me know how their problems turned out. The fact that they felt I helped them enough that they wanted to return and thank me means so much.

The requests for advice range from unrequited love to learning to let go of a relationship that no longer “Works”. I love helping my clients look into their hearts and see what it is they really want or need in their relationships. I like to remind people that we are all worthy of love and respect. I find most of my clients know what they need to do and they just want a little support from a neutral party to help solidify their decisions. I find this is a great way to give back for all the love and support I received from others in my own life. Sometimes you just need someone to tell you “It’s okay! You are making a good decision” or “you need to do what is best for you”. That is what I am here for!

I am truly honored to be a Wizpert!

- Melissa

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It’s your time: COMMIT OR QUIT!

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Time. What is time? God’s gift to us every day. Are you using your time for your purpose or wasting your time on irrelevant things? Often we hear people say tomorrow isn’t promised or we even say it ourselves. If we all truly believe this why do we take time for granted? Commit or quit helps with this. You’re either going to commit to the cause or quit.

Career: If you don’t see your job going anywhere, COMMIT OR QUIT!

Relationships: If you know deep down inside you can’t or won’t spend the rest of your life with this person, COMMIT OR QUIT!

Happiness: We all should have it. Half of the time we settle for unhappiness because of comfort. There are over 8 billion people in the world. There is someone out there for you. COMMIT OR QUIT!

You control your happiness. Being alone is better than dealing with someone that’s unfaithful, disloyal and keeping you unhappy. COMMIT OR QUIT!

Stop complaining and start working toward change. You can’t keep doing the same things over and over from your past thinking you’re going to have a new future. It doesn’t work like that. Make a change, and that includes people. COMMIT OR QUIT!

At the end of the day you’re responsible for your own life. If you’re not truly happy and living the best, peaceful, blessed and happy life, take a look in the mirror and make some changes.

- Author Terry Bams

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Honesty in relationships

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One of the most common tips you hear about having a successful relationship is to be open and honest. It helps build trust, security, and allows a couple to truly get to know each other. Yet despite those benefits honesty is usually lacking in most relationships. The unfortunate reality is that many people find telling a lie to be easier and much more convenient. It allows them to manipulate the outcome of a situation and avoid an unwanted response. We have all done it at some point but is it really worth it?

Not at all. Yes telling that lie may get a more desired outcome at that moment but there is a price paid for the deception. Lies breed more lies and in a relationship this can create a very negative/unhealthy environment. You may think you are getting away with it and that it will be harmless. Yet at some point the damage done will find a way to surface and bring down your relationship. Taking a honest approach may let to some friction initially but it will set you up for success long term. Your partner may not like what you say but they will take comfort in the fact that you are always honest with them. This will make it much easier to work through any issues and mistakes made. It will also allow the both of you to get more in tune with each other. This equips both sides with a greater ability to fulfill each other and create a much more loving/positive environment.

A person always has the choice to be honest or to simply tell a lie. As scary as honesty may seem at times it is still the best approach. “The truth shall set you free” and “Honesty is the best policy” are very true statements. It would be in the best interest of people to fully embrace them and implement an honest approach in their relationship. It may not always get you what you think you want but it will likely get you exactly what you need.

- Stephan Labossiere
Certified Relationship Coach & Expert

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Moving forward with all of the pieces

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There can be good and/or bad residue left in a relationship once it is over, but you don’t have to leave the pieces behind that help you build the foundation for new relationships.

So often I hear women complaining to their friends about the appearance of their ex’s new girlfriend. They comment on her style, her looks, what she drives, where she works and how he will never find anyone like her. Strong relationships are not built on looks, style and money; they’re built on trust, communication and the response your heart gives when you’re with that person.

Start with entering the healing process. The healing process does not automatically go into effect at the ending of a relationship; it is something you have to choose to activate. Accept that the relationship is over, regardless who ended it. Clear your head of any unforgiveness and or resentment and ask God to purify your heart.

During this process learn to be alone. A part of heartache is familiarity. You’ve become accustomed to having someone to create memories and share experiences with, and having that routine abruptly interrupted can sometimes be challenging. Treat yourself to dinner or maybe go shopping for a new outfit and those perfect pair of pumps! Become your own best friend. Find out who you are, how you’ve changed and zoom in on the positive and negative things that you took from the relationship.

Revamp your outlook, perspective and reasoning, refocus your wants, needs and boundaries and repair yourself to prepare for the next relationship once your heart and mind are ready to enter.

The time between relationships is not to squeeze someone else in or to fill your head space with negativity concerning the new girl in your ex’s life, but to think about what you’ve learned and how you will move forward with all of the pieces!

Wizpert has created an opportunity for both Wizperts and users! Wizperts are able to extend their help and users find new perspectives on existing stumbling blocks in their lives. As a Wizpert I am honored that I am able to help others reach within themselves to make decisions, set boundaries and I enjoy injecting doses of encouragement whenever duty calls! I was able to help a user through a situation that dealt with moving on from their ex; a problem that many of us face, but not too difficult that it can’t be addressed and taken care of!

- A.Thomas

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Start the ascent… for a better life

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We need people, they’re part of the equation. There is value in knowledge from experience, and gained empathy, self-empowerment and inspiration developed from my own personal successes supporting wiser strategies and bringing better results to life challenges. I’m a rebuilding coach and author motivated by my own life challenges and changes. I’ll be with you every step of the way! I’ll help you on your way to a happier, peaceful, and emotionally prosperous life, stamped with my personal attention and approval.

Here are my personal subject expertise and support for YOU:

Improve Relationships and Intimacy – Improve what it takes to better ourselves and create open, loving and exclusive relationships. Identify and develop personal strengths that will sustain, not only your existing or potential intimate relationships, but with the most important relationship with yourself. Outline changes in the way you approach your life, interests, career and hobbies that will bring out your best—the one you seek will be finding you. Further, help you and your new partner discover and investigate a lost art–intimacy. Find love again that’s everlasting!

Better Family and Parenting Dynamics – Improve family dynamics and find harmony and balance in marriage, co-parenting, or single parenting. Generating harmony and balance based on common principles, mutual respect and love will guide you. It seems that while balance is the stake and mortar in the ground, harmony is the connections or strong bonds, which bind them – if balance is stability, then harmony is what embraces it. In order to create balance, you may build a firm base to stand on by developing stability. Examples of balance are having a significant other or spouse, children, career or job, a good home, good physical health, family, and friends. In order to develop harmony, you may form stronger bonds in relationships, improve faith, get organized, reprioritize, and tie together all facets in your life. Examples of harmony are love, unity, agreement, faith, accomplishment, and good emotional health.

Personal Growth – Reach the next level of intellectual and emotional stamina through proven and efficient strategies that help you thrive. My mantra; “challenge plus change equals growth.” For, “that which doesn’t [break] us, makes us stronger!” I redefined myself three times over my adult life to achieve my personal targets. Now, I’m changing again — I’m helping others who seek change. Today, I write, author, and speak about inspiration, growth, love, and life changes motivated by my own personal challenges and experiences. I’ve written a book about personal growth and rebuilding. I will provide you the necessary tools and mechanics to support your challenges and subsequent personal goals. This is my new journey.

Brighter Attitude and Style – Improve your outlook derived from a correlation of strengths developed through mental, emotional and personal adjustments. You may point to a number of things that make you smile and reminisce. Reach for the substance that draws contentment and exhilaration; the very essence of happiness in my opinion. These are the things that you would marvel about, make your eyes shine, and create a feeling of warmth in your chest. Things which come to mind for me are falling in love, the closeness in my relationship, developing deeper profound relationships with my children, family events and holidays, watching my kids grow and achieve milestones, and foremost, having the opportunity to being a father. These stir my heart. These provide meaning for me and that’s important. I can find purpose in that. I can give back if I rest on an appreciation for the small things I have to offer: my health, beauty in my heart, my smile. These are things I own and no one can take away. I founded eight keys to help develop and draw upon personal substance that matters—I did this in the midst of a planned two-year sabbatical (free from intimate relationships) in order to uncover and unravel my own challenges at the time.

I am excited to be invited and join the Wizpert equation. I look forward to meeting my peers and developing relationships, ideas that benefit the many users who seek support here. My mentoring style is soft, genuine and sensitive. Send me your challenges and I’ll outline steps to achieve your targets based on a combination of skills developed and inspired from my own personal life successes.

- Bruce Buccio

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An honest ear

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It seems like I’ve been a life-long relationship adviser; from my family and friends to people I just meet while running errands – people naturally gravitate towards me seeking help with their personal (and professional) issues.

Wizpert has given me a forum to pass on my personal experience, wisdom and knowledge beyond my immediate family and friends. Ever since joining, I’ve been in touch with a host of individuals in need of advice on a variety of personal matters, heck, I’ve even picked up a few regular Wizpert users who feel comfortable with sharing their concerns and allowing me to guide them while attempting to find personal resolve for their “respective situations.”

I can be brutally honest or just the ear need to listen to their problems; I earnestly try to give those who are connected with me the encouragement, support and guidance needed to make the best decision(s) on their dilemmas. I’m not here to judge or demean, call you names or make you feel less than – I am here to help. Wizpert has not only expanded my reach but provided the tool to allow those who are in need the ability to contact me (or other wizperts) any time of day or night; you don’t have to struggle you can have one-on-one access when you need it.

I’m excited to have gathered a following in such a short-time – it confirms my words are helping those in need and I am proud of this accomplishment. I strive to give anyone I connect with the answers to their questions never breaking your confidence and trust. Whether connect with me directly from Wizpert or through my website – I am here, ready and willing to help YOU!

- Ms. Nix

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How relationships shape us

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Relationships – our lives revolve around them, when they’re are going good our world is complete, when they go wrong, it feels like your whole world is being turned inside out. You can’t concentrate on anything else, your emotions rule over your head, as we try to wade through the muddy murky mess, unsure of a decision, or which direction to take. This is where I come in, and the exact reason that I am so honored and excited to be a ‘Wizpert.’ I am an unbiased, nonjudgmental, 3rd party observer, and not emotionally invested, meaning that I can give you a clearer perception of your relationship issue, which may feel daunting to you until you can see it from another perspective. Another reason why Wizpert is such an awesome tool, is that you talk live, one on one with a person that their only agenda, is to offer you their knowledge on the topic.

Relationships whether they’re good or bad, help to shape us into the people that we’re supposed to be in this world, playing a very vital role in our growth. I believe that there is a lesson to be learned in every situation, if you choose to do the work. In relationships 2 halves, never make a whole, the relationship that you have with yourself is the lifeblood of any and every relationship, that you will ever have. Especially as women, we sometimes forget our worth, or make the mistake in letting another person assign you a value.

To maintain a healthy relationship, it takes work. There is no right or wrong in the language of love, we all love differently, and sometimes help is needed to figure it all out. I truly love helping other people, I’m a firm believer in sharing knowledge, so if there is something that I’ve experienced, and can use it to help another, I’m all for it.

- Brenda
B Love B Fit B Beautiful

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Advice served with a large helping of humor

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After attending the New Media Expo in Las Vegas and discovering many new and creative platforms, I was extremely interested in Wizpert. They have a new and fresh approach for something that is truly needed for people and that is a place to go where you can interact with someone directly in real time with no waiting. There are many places to search out advice on the web but nothing quite like Wizpert. A person is given the opportunity to seek advice or just talk to someone by selecting his or her own personal Wizpert from a group of experts varying in all areas of expertise.

In my case, I write a blog that discusses relationships, dating, music and real life problems from a funny point of view. I always say that I have lived 9 lives and I truly have so, why not give someone the opportunity to learn from my experiences, lessons, and mistakes? My Wizpert conversations will provide good advice but will always be served with a large helping of humor. One of the most important things I have learned from all of my trials and tribulations is that you will have a much more enjoyable life if you can take your problems and digest them with a laugh.

Wizpert is a place to come where you can feel safe asking anything. It is comforting for people to know that a lot of us have been through the same or similar experiences and that he or she is not alone. My Wizpert chats even help me in life and writing.

I am not a relationship counselor or a therapist but I have an intense passion and love for what I do. This makes me an expert, a.k.a. Wizpert. So, stop by and give me a click – promise to make you laugh or at least giggle a little.

- Melany

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