When I was a little girl, my parents used to listen to Diana Ross songs and I would sing along pretending to be, “The Boss”. One song in particular had the chorus, “I’m gonna make you love me, oh, yes I will, yes I will…”. As a child, I never considered what that meant until I entered adolescence and became an adult. I eventually learned the lesson that you cannot “make” anyone to love you. My encounters with Wizpert clients reinforce this concept.
I continuously attempt to teach others this lesson as we discuss the topic of relationships. They want to “make them understand” or “make them see” certain things regarding who they are and what they want from a relationship and how they are going to obtain it from that other individual. These individuals are not taking into consideration or respecting the concept of “free will”. How can anyone expect for someone to remain in a relationship when the desire to impose his or her will upon the other individual?
One of the many benefits of being a Wizpert is the opportunity to help other individuals to gain insight into their wants, needs, and desires as they come to terms with the status of their relationships. Helping them to understand that both parties in a relationship has free will to pursue peace and happiness is important. They cannot force someone to stay when their mind and heart is already out the door. I advocate personal development and I believe that no matter the status of a relationship, an individual can be a champion in the situation as they take what has occurred and use it as a means of growth. If that growth results in saving the relationship, than that is an advantage. If that growth does not result in saving the relationship, it provides the individual with a certain level of peace and the opportunity to apply those lessons learned in another healthy relationship.
In the end, everyone who is in a relationship should learn that no one is, “The Boss.”
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