Parenting Experts

Where do you go to get credible advice about how to raise your children? The classic parenting expert is Grandma – but does she always know best? Another prominent parenting expert in parent’s lives is the Pediatrician – but what happens when you need advice which doesn’t necessarily directly relate to your children’s health?

Coaches as Parenting Experts

When you think of a Coach (no not the sports related type) you usually think of a professional who helps guide you through your career, relationship and life in general. There are quite a number of coaches out there who specialise in parent coaching. If you think of it, parenting is a life long challenge just as a career or marital relationship is.

An example of an institute which specializes in training parent coaches is thepci.com. There are also online directories where you can find a parenting coach near you, such as www.thecoaches.com.

Social Workers as Parenting Experts

Social workers are not only trained to work with families and children, by virtue of their job they tend to see the most challenging cases in the community. The experience they gain over the years along with their ability to emphathize with people allow them to be a prime resource for parents looking for advice and expertise. The largest listing of social workers can be found at www.helppro.com

Counselors as Parenting Experts

Another certified and experienced resource for parents is the Counselor. Councelors interact with both parents and children and should be used not only in a situation where a child is causing problems but also as an expert that parents can turn to in order to help prevent future issues through correct parenting. The National Board of Certified Counselors lists these parenting experts at http://www.nbcc.org/directory/FindCounselors.aspx.

Family Therapists as Parenting Experts

As with the professionals listed above, Family Therapists have seen a lot of bad parenting and are tasked with helping parents to develop some very robust parenting skills in order to help dig them and their children out of the deep ditch which they have dug for themselves. The American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy has a listing of these parenting experts at http://www.aamft.org

Super Parents as Parenting Experts

For some parenting related questions a certified professional is not necessarily the best parenting expert to contact, for example:
- What is the best stroller to buy?
- What are the best schools in my area?
- What is a good technique to get my kids to eat veggitables?
- How do I prepare my children for a trip to a developing country?

In these cases you have “Super Parents” parents who have been there before, have done their research and have made the mistakes that you can learn from. A great way to connect with these parents is a community or forum such as www.cafemom.com.

Parenting Resources

Parenting resources are ubiquitous on the web – but finding good quality ones is a challenge. Content within certain parenting resources is commercially driven and must be taken with a pinch of salt or ignored all together. One great example can be found in a book (when it comes to quality parenting resources you can’t beat the good old published book) called Brain Rules for Baby where the author, John Medina (a developmental molecular biologist), discusses how, according to scientific research, all of these “Baby Einstein” DVDs can actually inhibit the development of your baby’s brain – some parenting resource!
Different Types of Online Parenting Resources

Certain parenting resources on the web can cover a very broad spectrum of topics like http://www.cfw.tufts.edu/ which covers (via links to parenting resources) to any topic you can imagine with regards to parenting.
Other parenting resources may cater to specific niches, for example:
  • Hyperlocal parenting resources like www.queensmamas.com
  • Local parenting resources like www.momsupport.org
  • Religion specific parenting resources – www.primetimeparenting.com
  • Volunteer organizations – parentsinaction.org
  • Developmental advice – www.reflective-parenting.com
  • Parenting resources for local schools www.parentsleague.org
  • Musical education – www.downtownbabies.com
  • Discussion forums – forums.familyeducation.com
The classic parenting resource

As I mentioned before, sometimes the best parenting resource is a good book, written by a certified professional, which is backed by scientific research. Some examples are “How to Talk so Kids will Listen & How to Listen so Kids will Talk“, “Baby 411“, and “Raising Teens with Love and Understanding”.

4 year old biting her nails – Yikes!

A few weeks ago, my 4 year old started biting her fingernails. At first I stared at disbelief – isn’t this supposed to be something that only grown-ups do, much like driving and making responsible decisions…but no! She was really doing it, and with a zeal too!
I asked other parents from her school and the playground, consulted with friends and family, and was only mildly comforted to learn that this is a very common behavior in children.
In terms of (failed) attempts so far, we have tried the following: verbal corrections, pep talks, rewards (she loves to go to the nail salon and get nail polish, so my wife and I promised her that we would take her there if her fingernails grow long enough), and even a special bitter nail-polish that is supposed to remind her that this is really a disgusting habbit. The latter attempt was by far the funniest – as she genuinely got excited about the bitter nail polish, but soon realized that biting her nails will earn her another application, which she loved!
We never experienced anything like this with her 7 year old sister, and would really appreciate any advice from any of our many readers!
Regards,
Parents of 2 girls